Writing with Anxiety

As I was working on my post about writer’s block, I realized that sometimes the reason we struggle can be temporary, like lack of inspiration or a particular stressful situation. In those cases, the possible solution may involve doing something else until the inspiration returns or the particular situation has been fixed. But if you have to live with it forever, like some people do with anxiety and/or depression, this might not be a good solution.

I’ve lived together with anxiety as long as I can remember, but depression is new for me, so I’m not as experienced as I am fighting anxiety. I can tell you that, in my case, writing while I was depressed only made it worse, so I had to stop and take a break for a year (while I was looking for a good psychologist), then take another year to come back slowly. So, you know, sometimes it’s good to stop and take care of yourself for a while.

But I have the need to feel useful, so this situation β€”as you can imagineβ€” didn’t make my anxiety happy. We both had to learn to cope. My problem is I feel guilty if I’m not being helpful all the time, and I can’t be helpful if I’m not doing something “useful”. Writing counts as useful, but since I’m a translator, it’s not very different from my usual job (typing on a computer) or studying (which I was doing at the same time), and it piled up. The solution? I had to learn to relax and compromise.

I try to think of my anxiety as a sort of gremlin (AKA mogwai). It can be a nice pet if I take care of it, but… I can’t feed it after midnight. Or, in my case, after work. I need to spend hours doing something different so I can recharge my battery. It wasn’t that way before, but I overdid it and didn’t notice until it was too late. As a result, I only write a bit during the weekends when I have busy weeks at work. (Or nothing at all, if I’ve been too busy.) I’m slow, but there’s a nice community of #turtlewriters over twitter who are amazingly encouraging. It’s good enough to know I’m not alone, but they also tweet regularly to show their support and understanding. And by regularly, I mean every day!

I also struggle whenever I share anything written by me (yes, even blog posts or tweets) because I don’t want to be offensive, boring or annoying. Which is why I created this blog, so I could start writing and sharing little by little, and hopefully learn that the world doesn’t end and I shouldn’t be controlled by fear. As a result, now I have twitter and this blog to test my anxiety and get used to having other people see what I write.

So those are my plans for the foreseeable future: take my time, keep going to therapy, update this blog and turtle-write.

Tell me, do you have any experience with anxiety? How do you cope?

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8 thoughts on “Writing with Anxiety

  1. My mom calls me little turtle because I’m very perseverance when I’m studying, working, etc. Sometimes I felt weird about how I manage my responsibilities because I insist in doing everything perfect. I used to be very demanding with myself. Then, I realized, I’m a person, I’m not perfect, I have my doubts, problems, but I still have my determinations and I do better I can (like write in English in this moment…It’s been along time for the last time I did)
    At least, I learnt something important: I need time for me; take care yourself, enjoy with friends, enjoy the life!

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    1. I’m glad that you’re aware of how to avoid burnout and that you’re taking care of yourself. Your schedule is very demanding and you need all the rest and entertainment you can get! Thank you for taking your time to comment (in English, even!) when you’re so busy. I truly appreciate it.

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  2. A really thoughtful, honest & helpful post, Sol. Glad you’re getting your blog nicely established. Good luck with it & with maintaining your life/work/writing balance. ((hugs)) 🐒 πŸ™‚πŸ’–πŸ€

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, here and on Twitter.
      Maintaining a balance is hard, but I’m getting better every day. Now I’m having a bad week, but I managed to write a bit, so I’m feeling very accomplished!

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  3. If you’ve managed to write a little even whilst having a bad week, that’s a major achievement, Sol. ((hugs)) Well done! Good luck with this coming week. Hope it’s an easier one for you. πŸ™‚πŸ’πŸ’–πŸ€

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